All I need is a good scream...
Financial News/General Responsibilities
I have a couple of things that are of a confessional nature, things that are and aren't financially related, but I need to get on top of:
- My license was revoked, and I haven't gotten it reinstated (see this post). I did all the paperwork to do so, but something didn't catch, and it's still revoked. I've been ignoring it for months now. I have to get this done MONDAY. That's not something I can sit on.
- I mentioned that I have a parking ticket that I have to pay in this post. That's not quit true. The ticket went to collections, and I owe $50 to a collection agency. I have to pay that this WEEKEND.
- I didn't get a gift for a friend's wedding two years ago. This is still hanging over my head. I originally started making a quilt for her, but didn't get that done in time, and then just kind of packed it up and said that I would get to it. I never did. I know it's stupidly late, but I still want to make up for it. I think about it every day.
- I have a book from a friend sitting in the back of my car. I'm supposed to edit it. I haven't even cracked it open. For some reason I feel like I won't do it right.
I'm sitting across from my GF at a coffee shop right now. She's absolutely beautiful. Curly black hair, dark blue eyes that are almost gray. Wonderful figure. Small but full lips. Right now she's wearing a multicolored stone necklace I got her. Probably the best piece of jewelry I've ever picked out for someone. She's brilliant-- getting her PhD in political science. I want to be a better person for her. For myself, certainly, but for her. I don't want to have all these stupid crisis hanging over my head. That's part of the reason I'm doing this blog.
This is a financial blog, but the finances are almost a symptom of some underlying problem that I don't quiet understand. I get worried when I think of doing things that require responsibility. I'm terrified of completing things. I'm absolutely terrified of committing to anything. I feel like some generic posterchild for "I can't get my life together." It's not exactly like everything seems hopeless, it just seems... pointless.
I can't really figure my life out right now. I know this. I'm not going to come to some grand epiphany, I don't think I'm going to be able to truly commit to something, right now, because I don't have a base built up to make a decision from. I feel that if I eliminate one of the symptoms, my debt, I'll be better able to attact the underlying problem. The thing itself. I use debt, maybe, as an excuse to languish in my life. I can't do that, I have to much debt. I can't go there, I don't have any money. I can't move, I'll never be able to afford it. Getting rid of debt is a declaration that I want to do something, and I know that's going to take time.
And, a little deeper. Societies funny in that it piles on top of you what you deserve. It's an inherent balance in life. We don't like to admit this, but it's true. I deserve the debt I have, because I tried to muscle ahead in life without building a base. Not just of money. Debt is only a symptom. I'm talking an educational base, an emotional base, a professional base. I APPEAR to have these things. I went to a great school, but I didn't work that hard, or rather, I let things get in the way that I shouldn't have (or, to be a bit lenient, some things rose up in life that I wasn't able to handle at the time--my mother's illness, my father's depression, my family's bancruptcy). I have a good job, but it's a bit of a no-brainer.
So, in trying to eliminate debt, I'm trying to shore up other aspects of my life. They're are several elephants in my room, but my financial situation is a mastodon, and it sort of intimidates my other problems.
This is a blog about hunting mastodons.





